Very rarely does someone say, “Well yeah, I did it and I did it on purpose.” That’s not going to happen. What’s going to happen is,
“You must be mistaken.”
“You are guilty.”
“You are acting like a victim.”
“You are not right.”
“You are not competent.”
“You are not confident.”
“You are not one of us.”
“You are causing problems.”
Every effort is made to make you believe that you are the reason why you were subjected to whatever it is.
Building Your Support Team
Once you have your team, use your team. Let them guide you, let them inform you, let them be the place—the safe place you go to. But always maintain yourself as the centre because what they are offering is a perspective, they’re offering guidance but ultimately you are the one to make the decision.
A qualified life coach can be an integral part of this support team, providing professional guidance and helping to navigate through challenging situations. They will ask, “What do you want to do?” It’s possible that you don’t even know what you want to do. You’re still reeling, but they will recognise that they’re in service to you at this particular point. They value you, they are listening to your needs.
The Path to Healing
That’s where the healing comes in, and the healing happens in whatever way you need the healing to happen. Don’t automatically assume that it has to be medication, don’t assume that you need to necessarily distance yourself from a place that you love because of an incident.
Keep yourself informed. Your mind, your body, your feelings, your principles, be informed by all of that. Also, allow the people who are in your life to reflect back at you the difference in you, so you can measure with their support, the difference that this thing has made to you.
Be about healing yourself. Be about taking care of yourself. You aren’t able to do anything properly if you’re not taking care of yourself properly. That’s how you recover.
Embracing Self-Worth and Recovery
You arm yourself and you recognise that you are worthy of respect. You are worthy of human rights. You are worthy of being safe and certainly in a workplace environment, they have a duty of care to take care of you. Know that you can recover.
In fact, I would say that you may even be better than you were before because now you have this in your tool bag. You have this as part of your life experience. You can draw on this to support somebody else. You can draw on this to remind yourself of what you’ve been through.
And that you’ve been through something is a powerful thing. If you’re stuck in the thing, that’s just not the preferred place.
Moving Forward with Confidence
You want to come through it and be on the other side of it. You can, and you will. Have faith, and be true to yourself. Engaging with a qualified life coach can significantly enhance this journey. They provide the professional support and strategies needed to move forward confidently.
Remember, investing in yourself and seeking professional guidance is a crucial step towards embracing a new horizon and finding the support you need.
SisDr
Life and Leadership Coach Specialising in Cultural Sensitivity
Coach | Counsellor | Author | Speaker | Activist
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