People can be unkind, vindictive, thoughtless, ambitious to the extent that they don’t care who they hurt. Maybe they are weak-spirited so that something is happening and they don’t object because they’re just too weak to interrupt the event or the sequence of events. Whatever the reason, my main role is to recognise the impact that it’s having on me.
The Importance of Recording Everything
One way to manage this impact is to write it down. Another way is to actually record it. We all have devices now, so record it. If recording at the time of the event is not possible, record it immediately after. In order to have as many facts in mind as possible before the trauma starts to take hold, while still locked into that event and in relatively close proximity to it, record everything.
Seeking Support
Finding a support network is crucial. If I believe in a Higher Power, I go to the Higher Power. Wherever I need to go to get my therapy, to be witnessed, to be heard—I go there. It’s important to be witnessed in these experiences. Trusted individuals can help record things that might become vague over time. They can also reflect back whether what I went through is actually what I think I went through.
Documenting for Evidence
It’s essential to document the sequence of events as if going into a courtroom. Capture all the evidence. When deciding to act, having empirical data is crucial. It’s not about feelings or assumptions but about providing solid evidence. Because sometimes the situations are so far-fetched and hard to believe that convincing others is difficult. Reliving the trauma while trying to convince others is not good.
Once all of this is done, I begin to discharge the impact. I start to have a relationship with the event without it consuming me. Often, there is nowhere to go within an organisation unless it values its human resources. Surveys show that staff and stakeholders often don’t feel valued or heard. Data collection and analysis indicate that there is work to be done.
Finding the Right People
Finding people to talk to is essential. Not everyone will look the same. It’s not necessarily just family or friends. Reaching out for professional help is crucial. Engaging in one to one life coaching can provide tailored support and guidance.
Professional Support
Getting a therapist, a coach, or a specialist in the area can be life-changing. One to one life coaching offers personalised attention and strategies to navigate these challenges. This type of coaching ensures that one is armed for the response to objections because there will be responses.
That’s why one to one life coaching helps, it offers professional support in an intimate setting which can make a significant difference in managing and overcoming life’s challenges.
SisDr
Life and Leadership Coach Specialising in Cultural Sensitivity
Coach | Counsellor | Author | Speaker | Activist
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